Hi Wallace,
Thank you. I have been working diligently. I was in Denver for the first half of this week. I will gladly respond as I have a little more time. I have put so much into what I am doing and I have always maintained a good name personally. Recently there have been a few that are very dedicated to trying to discredit my name with false information and twisted truths. It really sucks since there are so many people today that need a solution. It seems that skepticism is very high these days!
It takes effort to succeed in any business and unfortunately there are so many people that want to blame someone else for their failures. Then there are those that want to justify their failures by doing all they can to bring others down!
I think that there is room for everyone. I think that if we are going to make a better place, we all have to come together. I have always believed that the measure of a leader is not by status or position of wealth. It is earned by lifting and helping others to become more of what they desire… A better father, teacher, husband, wife, entrepreneur! I believe that if someone is so focused on their own needs and trying to get ends to meet, they will never truly have the capacity to reach out and help another! When you help others, by default you are helping many!
We all have the choice to make and path to create, follow, or sit on! When you do things that are large and game changing, you will most likely need help. It will take a lot of people! As you coordinate that, you will find people from all walks. Promises will be made and depending on who you are and your character, your expectations and involvement will surface. You will trust in people and some will let you down and others will magnificently surprise you. How you deal with that is what shapes your own character.
TCA hit a few technical snags and all I can do is share what I know and information I gather from the teams I have worked to assemble. When things do not go as planned, I have to find solutions and move forward. When things get tough, most people quit! I believe personal growth comes in waves and often you can measure the size of an upcoming breakthrough by the size of the challenges you are facing. Stopping just leaves you where you are, maybe even worse off…. Moving forward causes you to grow. I see so many people that know truth and want to make a difference and even know how but their worry about what someone else thinks, or may think of them, stops them from ever stepping up!
After much searching and interviewing, I met with a Branding coach www.thebrandartist.com and we spent 3 solid days together. We were talking of this very thing. He rephrased something shared with him… The 20/40/60 rule. When you are 20 you worry about what everyone else thinks, when you are in your 40’s you could care less, when you are 60 you realize no-one was really thinking about you!
All the things you need for great success in life are within you or within your reach. You will have to discover them. It will take Action. It will take paying attention and flexibility. It will take getting around people that think a little different, people that will support you and share. If you worry about what others think then one of two things are happening… 1. You are not very certain about what you are doing 2. You are living a life of limitation based on the perception you have of what others are thinking (remember, your perception is made up in YOUR mind, unless you are directly told)! This brings me to an easy equation. You know who YOU are and YOU decide the actions YOU will take and YOU know what is right and wrong! When you move forward with integrity, true intention of good, in the long run, it won’t matter what anyone says about you. When you move forward in that way, and stay on track you will naturally attract and notice the right people that will assist and your foundation will be solid.
When you operate from truth and true intent, I believe things will come together better for you because you can easily have total conviction in what you are doing… you can easily move with CERTAINTY! When you do that, things just come together. People sense it and want to be part of it! I believe we are heading into the decade of the entrepreneur. I think more people than ever are going to have to grow and find ways of self-reliance! That comes from expanding your thinking and knowledge. I also believe that you will grow proportionately to those you help grow. You learn as much from teaching as you do from being a student. With 5 kids, I can certainly say, they have taught me a lot too! When you share, you establish more understanding of your own knowledge and the areas you are a bit lacking. The more you share the more distinctions and discovery you will make.
I think your connections are what help you succeed too (ALL connections). It is what Malcolm Gladwell refers to in his book “tipping point”. Are you a happy person? Everywhere you go, do you make it a point to alter someone’s state, get a smile, a bigger smile, a laugh? Do you offer comfort and encouragement? If you do that, not only do you yourself begin to feel better but people will want to be around you! Most everyone knows this but so few practice it!
Realize that when you begin to reach out and lift others, you have to be in a certain state of mind to do that. As you attempt this you will ask your brain a different question “what is good here?”, “How does this help…X?” “what is something good in the world that would make this person smile?” You see, when you move through the world in this way you begin to notice different possibilities and eventually it becomes a habit and a way of thinking. At that time, everything changes. People want to help, they want to be around you and you will have true friends.
You have to become honest with yourself about this. Entrepreneurship is challenging for a lot of people because it is about personal growth first!
When you are self employed you have to look in the mirror and say “if I had an employee that performed as I did today, would I have a job? Would I be satisfied with the results?”. For most, it is far easier to blame something outside themselves. You will certainly face challenges and there is no such thing as failure unless you quit! If you move forward you have new knowledge, new distinctions and experience. I often say the difference between catastrophe and no big deal is experience! Experience comes from recovering from a few near catastrophe’s!
Life is a journey and if all you do is focus on a few snapshots, you are frozen there! Snapshots can be of any moment and depending on that moment, it can be perceived as a failure or success. However, When you view the journey you see that each snapshot was what lead you to the next snapshot. Each snapshot was part of the journey so by default it was a necessary step in the process. Cool thing is, this snapshot here now, is the map to your next snapshot. Each step forward creates a new map for your direction… You have to pay attention! If you stop here, sure it could be called a failure but if you create a new snapshot and move forward, you are moving to success.
I have been here before. When you are moving forward so many people will portray their own beliefs to you. They are merely stating their own limited mindset and thinking. You’ll hear things like… that won’t work, that’s not possible, and a million excuses and variations of limited thinking. They are quick to discredit you. They may even attack you! Then as you move forward and succeed…. Those same people are right there saying, Man I knew you were onto something big, I knew you were going to succeed!
One of my weaknesses is that I want to provide definitive solutions and also give what others are asking for! In that light, I put my foot in my mouth with TCA a bit because so many were pressing for an absolute date. There are so many dynamics at play here and many components that must work right. It is clear to everyone that we are in pre-launch yet most just don’t hear or understand what that means. They are stuck in a snapshot! TCA will absolutely happen, I commit that with certainty. Think of it like a series of gears that all have to fit together and move in unison. You get one gear to large or with bad teeth or whatever, you can leave it there and be stuck or you identify it and replace it. If a stone gets in the gears, you either leave it and be stuck or you remove the stone!
Ah, I could go on and there is a lot on this topic. It comes down to who YOU are and who you DECIDE to BE! Both good and bad exist simultaneously in the world and you will notice what you focus on! Just like the last car you bought was suddenly everywhere on the road the day after you bought it. They were always there, you just focused on it.
I wish everyone success in all they do and most of all, lift others and BE the difference of GOOD! Stand for something significant!
Respectfully,
John Milanoski
